It’s the last day of my thirties and as of recent I’ve taken a lot of time to reflect. I say this all the time, people always tell you that your thirties are the best time of your life. What can I say, they were right. At least in my case.
The last ten years I’ve seen peaks and valleys, there’s no doubt about that. I’ve learned a lot of lessons and life has shown me more than I ever thought I would. When I began in my thirties, I hadn’t been in California very long. Now that I look back, I still had a great deal of growing up to do.
Absolutely the one thing in my life that forced me to grow up and the all time lowest was in 2011. My mother was diagnosed with leiomyosarcoma, a very rare and aggressive cancer, which took her life 6 months later. Words can’t explain how devastating this was and something that one can never be prepared to deal with. Mom taught me so much about life from love to business and to always be the best I can be in everything I do. She was always so proud of me, no matter what, and I know she would be proud to see how far I’ve come along.
Previously, in my last year of college I had managed to move to South Carolina, back to North Carolina for a brief stint, New York City and finally landed in Southern California where I’ve been for about 12 years now. Needless to say I was a bit restless. Speaking of which, the last decade included three different career path changes which finally landed me where I am now, in the tech industry. After being in a couple careers that, now that I look back, made me miserable I can truly say that this is where I need to be. Things happen for a reason, I’ve always believed that.
I had lost count of how many times in my life I had heard “you just know when you’ve found the right one” or some variation of the phrase. Almost two years ago, I found just that. The love of my life officially showed up, at just the right time, during the tail end of my thirties. She constantly inspires me to be a better person in every way. We complement each other in so many ways. We truly love each other, unconditionally. I had reached the point that I thought it would most likely never happen, yet here we are getting married in September. Jackie and I got engaged last August in Kauai and by far one of the highest peaks in my life.
2017 started off with a bang, new job and getting married in September. New year, new me. This is 40.